Thursday, 2 October 2014

Lesson #9: What must kids do for us to stop pushing them over the edge

Last week, a P5 child attempted suicide in my child's school. Hopefully after this episode the child's parents will heed this cry for help. Last year, a Sec 4 child in my other child's school committed suicide.

A close friend was sharing with me that her 8-year old wanted to run away from home. And take the cab to her best friends house. Of course she wasn't seriously going to carry out her plan but she was so terrified of her mummy's anger that she wanted to escape from it. Only then did my friend realise that although she doesn't use the cane on her kids, sometimes, her wrath is much more fearsome and hurtful to them.

A police friend told me that kids are now running away from home younger and younger and they have found 8 and 9-year olds on the street. How terrifying. A home doesn't seem to be a haven for some children anymore.

Many years ago, when I reached out to hold one of my daughter's hand to cross the road, she said, "Let the car knock me down better. I'd rather die." I literally stopped in my tracks.

Our kids are crying out to us. What must they do for us to stop pushing them over the edge?


In a recent study of over 600 primary school children in Singapore, a group of doctors from IMH found that more than 20% indicated they wanted to kill themselves or harboured suicidal thoughts at one time. I highly recommend parents and teachers read "The Day the Ball Didn't Bounce" which is based on a true story, written by Dr Peter Mack.

A friend's sister bravely shared her personal story of how she thought of killing herself from the time she was in primary school. It's time we stop hushing such topics because the only way of even beginning to address it is to "recognise the existence of problems… and particularly remind parents what they can do towards preventing future tragedies among our young" - S R Nathan, 6th President of the Republic of Singapore.





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2 comments:

  1. I read the 1st paragraph with a heavy heart, it woke me up from being just complacent. It's a call about being more sensitive to the changes in our kids. There's so much I need to drill myself in, along with their growing up years. Always best to keep communication both ways.

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  2. Yes you are right. It starts by being aware of what is going on with our kids as they are growing up. A lot of us don't even know what they are thinking about deep down inside. It's tough enough to parent, what more families who are facing issues like divorce, financial difficulties, illnesses etc.

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