Thursday, 6 November 2014

Lesson #22: Confronting death teaches you about life

I've been volunteering at a hospice as I've always been drawn to palliative care from the time I was a student. This morning, I was pushing an elderly lady around the gardens and she asked me to stop to gaze at the colourful flowers. They brought a smile to her face. Then she spotted 2 little sparrows and she was delighted.

It struck me how alike she is to my kids when they were young. How they would stop to inspect the flowers and burst into childlike wonderment at the beauty of a flower.

It got me thinking. At the beginning of our lives, it's the simplest things like having the love of mummy and daddy which is most important.

At the end of our lives it is again the warmth of family that we need most. 

How do we end up chasing after all the wrong things throughout our lives? How do we allow our priorities to shift so dramatically?


As I left the hospice, I asked myself, if I was on my deathbed what would I regret? Most likely, I would regret being overly harsh on my kids and yelling at them so much, instead of disciplining them with gentleness and love. Most likely, I would regret the many times I brushed them aside while I tend to all my seemingly more 'important' work. Most likely, I would regret choosing to be angry at them instead of immediately forgiving them and hugging them tightly in my arms.

And I asked myself, if I was on my deathbed, what would I be thinking about? Would I be able to easily bring up all the beautiful and happy moments with my family? Would I have uncountable memories of good times, filled with fun and laughter, tears and joy with my closest friends?

At the end of my life, what would I be left with? Things? Titles? Or People?

It takes death to put life into perspective.

And I know, it is the little things which make up L I F E.

However, to live life fully like there is no tomorrow, that is the hard part.



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1 comment:

  1. Yup, it's true isn't it? We know all this deep down inside, but our everyday actions and priorities are still sometimes in the wrong place. Thanks for the reminder, we can never be reminded often enough - it's then that perhaps we will change our actions more permanently.

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